I have troubles synchronising my itunes on my iphone. No matter what i do the computer keeps on copying the whole bloody library witch takes ages, it is driving me mad, i really don't like Itunes but i don't know an alternative. Is there one?

Answer.
Step 1
itunes/preferences/devices
Check Prevent Ipods Iphones from Syncing Automatically
Step 2
Connect your Iphone
In itunes click on your iphone icon.
Check Mange Playlests Manually.
Hope that helps.
let me know how you go

I already did step one, i don't dare to try step 2 now.... but thanks so far...

Be brave , nothing will be achieved by sitting it out.
You will be able to control what itunes playlists you have on your device once you change your settings , to be able to manage your playlists manually.

Thanks for the suggestion, please inform best software in mixing audio.