Programming & Processing Drums Options

[Funkfish]

So drums have always challenged me, usually in programming them, and while I still have issues I've been getting better at it but any advice on that I'd still appreciate.

Latelly the thing that's been bothering me is the SOUND of my drums, I use mainly BFD for my drums and whiile they sound great, they sound TOO real, the kinda music I make is kinda like slower speed Drum n Bass and Breaks, I really like how the drums sound on all of Pendullums records but yet I never can get anywhere near it, I know alot of people say its all about the sample, so maybe someone knows a good library of drum sounds? Basicaly here are my questions.

1. In general, what would you reccomend to get that nice breaks/DnB drum sound

2. What kind of processing would you reccomend me to do too BFD to get it to sound like that, and not as "real"

3. I've talked to alot of people who make this stuff and they swear by NI's Battery any particular reason??

4. I've also heard that people use an envelope to control eq's for their drums, why is that? and how does it differ from dynamic EQ (ala Sonalksis)

thanks so much!
Fish